Don’t Hide Behind Feminism

In this day and age, everyone’s either an advocate or an expert in a particular subject. Sometimes social media only makes matters worse. It gives a voice to the voiceless, but many opinions do not deserve an audience. Not everyone interprets certain things the same way and this is where the problems begin.

Today in class we touched a little on feminism. More specifically, how women are not allowed to be as sexually expressive as men. At least, that’s what I took from the conversation.

We were reminded of Nicki Minaj’s “Anaconda” video that sent quite a few people into a frenzy. She received a lot of flack for how provocative the video came across to many people. But her response to the criticism was basically something to the effect of being body proud; learning to embrace your curves in a world that may not accept them.

Everything we see that’s labeled as beautiful is very skinny. In the song I kind of say, ‘F— them skinny girls.’ But it’s all love. I consider myself a skinny girl. I went overboard with the video to show that I’m not going to hide. And those big-booty dancers I have, they’re not going to hide. Black girls should feel sexy, powerful and important too.

One of my classmates argued that women, regardless of race, should not be shunned for dancing a specific way. In fact, she went on to say that women like Nicki Minaj are simply mirroring the dances of their cultures. It should be viewed as ordinary and not vulgar. The student went as far as blaming the intermixing of Western European and African culture for the perversion of this kind of behavior.

Now, I’m familiar with the cultural and traditional dances of the motherland- but that felt like a bit of a reach to me. It’s one thing to promote comfort in one’s own skin, but it’s another to reinforce stereotypes of Black women being “video vixens.” I mean, at what point do we (African Americans) start to take ownership for our actions? Call a spade a spade and keep it moving. That video did not leave me any more empowered than Donald Trump’s disgusting remarks regarding minorities. I really don’t understand why we’re trying to plant a rose in a sh*t garden.

Now, is it wrong to shake what you’ve got for your man in the comforts of your own home? No. Is it wrong to partake in traditions when at a family function? No. Is it wrong to have a good time with some girlfriends at a party or club? No. However, a lot of times, your bedroom moves are better saved for the bedroom. As my Granny would say- leave something to the imagination.

For me, it just simply wasn’t my idea of feminism…but hey- what do I know?


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